Ever wandered into the “parenting” section of your local bookstore, just to be amazed at how many different books there are on the shelf? You name it, from books that have Dads sharing sneaky and underhanded tricks they did as boys (presumably the book isn’t intended as a primer for my son!) to books that are stories about crazy things that happen in the hospital delivery room (including my favorite: A woman who went to get an epidural just to find that the anesthesiologist was — horrors! — an ex-flame! So she decided to have her baby (emphasis theirs, not mine) without anesthesia!).
There are also plenty of books about how to be a better parent too, mostly written by people with the tell-tale “PhD” after their names. Look at the pictures of these authors, most are sitting at a desk or standing in front of an expensive office. What do these people know about 3am hunger wakeups, the perpetually wet diaper, babies who wiggle and make it impossible to put ON a diaper, or even sulky kids who just need a hug?
For years I’ve been wondering why more parents don’t write parenting books (or, at least, why more parents with younger children don’t write parenting books) and today the realization finally hit: we’re all just too darn busy being parents to find the time and write an entire book. Look around at your friends who have young children. If they’re lucky, Mom and Dad (or permutation thereof) get one or two greater-than-fifteen-minutes-alone periods in a week.
We have parent friends who haven’t had a date together in years. Literally. I’m not talking about a romantic weekend at a B&B with an expensive dinner and new lingerie, I’m talking about just having ANY sort of dinner without little hands reaching, little bottoms wiggling, and little mouths interrupting.
A number of people have asked Linda and I whether we are going to write a book about attachment parenting, and we want to do just that, and even have a book proposal written (and it’s a great one, if you’re a publisher!) BUT the difficulty will inevitably be to find the time to write the book!
You’re a parent. You know what I mean.
And that’s why all these dorky doctor-types write dry theoretical parenting books that break down once you get into a stressful situation. Because they’re the only ones with time to put pen to paper, or, at least, fingers to keyboard.
It’s probably also why dating books are so lame, now that I think about it. 🙂