Without naming any names, I have to say that I find it highly amusing that the latest here in the suburbs is what I’ll call babysitter poker, though it’s mostly all about bluffing more than anything else.
The situation came to my attention because we’re desperate for a babysitter for an upcoming evening and all of our usual babysitters are unavailable. Ugh, what to do? My thought was to simply ask the neighbors for a recommendation, someone that they’ve worked with who might be available that evening.
Nope. That’s not how it works…
Apparently, there’s no greater treasure in modern America than a reliable and trustworthy babysitter. So in fact, neighbors don’t share their babysitters and won’t even name ’em.
Somehow this makes me think of the possessiveness of some people in the early stages of a relationship, where they’re insanely jealous and won’t let their new partner talk with anyone who might be construed as a threat. Waiters, colleagues, friends, everyone has to be a second fiddle to the new relationship.
So I’m trying to figure out the worst case scenario here. I suppose that the real danger is that we would try a new babysitter out for this one night, love her, have the kids love her, and then ask her to keep babysitting for us, leaving our neighbor in the lurch when they want to use her as a babysitter.
But isn’t there some sort of loyalty that a babysitter and a family establish when they work together for a period of time? We tend to have standing dates and book additional times at least a week or two in advance. Wouldn’t that mitigate things?
Anyway, maybe I just don’t get it because I’m not directly involved in planning our social calendar. Nonetheless, it just seems weird that even though we all like each other quite a bit in our neighborhood, there’s still an ongoing game of babysitter poker going on, with each family playing their cards oh so close to their chest.
Have you experienced anything similar?