I might have missed the memo, but when did Halloween turn into a holiday focused on girls showing off their, um, feminine charms? I’m astonished that there are more and more costume shops that pop up in my area each year, and when you go in all the costumes for girls over about eight seem to suggest that they’re college co-eds hoping to get laid that night.
I mean, really, have you gone into one of these stores and looked?
Check out these two, for example:
This is a great challenge for us parents of girls because it’s one thing to say “honey, those are for older girls” and it’s another thing to say “well, you’re right, there are NO costumes here at all that aren’t in that ‘sexy’ style”.
I might be a bit prudish, or protective of my daughter, but when she’s 12yo, she really doesn’t have to strut her stuff or wear a skirt that’s so short that it leaves nothing to the imagination of the boys she meets.
I actually think that this is yet another step in the dramatic early sexualization of girls in modern Western society and it’s a trend that I really despise. I don’t want to see little girls or even tweens or young teens dressing like they’re nineteen and ready for whatever life (e.g. boys/men) bring their way.
It’s hard enough to navigate these waters as a Dad, but it seems to me that as long as these are the primary choices that our girls have and that they recognize that costume shopping is a fundamentally social activity (my daughter went with a gal pal of hers, for example) AND that we as parents don’t say “no” or at least tone the costumes down with leggings, underlayers, etc., then we’re complicit in this process.
And I might be showing a slightly conservative streak, but I have to say that I see a strong correlation between younger and younger girls dressing in a sexy, eye-appealing and attention-drawing manner and both teenage sex and teen pregnancies. Not good.
So how are YOU handling your girls costumes this Halloween, folks?