Is it just the community I live in, or is this a more prevailing perspective on masculine/feminine and male/female:
“The Ego and its masculine surrogates who dominate the economic, political and cultural institutions of our society continue a patriarchal system that diminishes access to divine love which is intrinsically based in the feminine side of each person. In this playshop, [the instructor] will demonstrate how Astrology reveals the depth of the “mother” wound we may have and to what extent we may have healing associated with understanding the behavior(s) that further cultivates our feminine side. These behaviors may include being a good listener, better self-care, home organization, social skills, etc.”
This is a description from a workshop advertised locally as “Healing the Mother/Feminine Within”.
What bugs me the most about this is that a) there’s never a “healing the father/masculine within” workshop that’s a mirror of this and b) there’s an assumption that the feminine is “broken” (and hence needs healing) because of the masculine.
Let me just say, this is not how I want my children to think of masculine/feminine and, more importantly, male and female in our society and in the world at large.
I also see this as directly channeling from the “female as victim” mentality that I believe is far too prevalent in our society and is the basis of a lot of problems we have with lack of equality and with certain groups that automatically equate male = bad, female = good.
It even shows up in the news: a local paper is reporting a 31yo female teacher who was caught dallying with an underage student. Because she’s female, it’s reported as an isolated incident, there’s no photo associated with the story, etc. Same situation with a male teacher and an underage female student, however, and he’d already have his life ruined, be named, have his picture in the paper, and likely be in jail. You’re read of these appalling situations with male teachers taking advantage of their situation, compare those stories with this one in the Denver Post: Loveland Teacher Accused of Sex Assault.
I’m not only male but masculine too, which means that as part of the package I can be loud, boisterous, aggressive, have a deep voice and a big presence. Then again, I know women with all the same characteristics, along with men who have almost none of them. Is that good or bad? Of course not, they’re just personality and behavioral traits.
Which gets us back to “a patriarchal system that diminishes access to divine love which is intrinsically based in the feminine side of each person”. Why can’t the masculine have divine love? Why does a patriarchal system diminish divine love? When did masculine become so automatically equated with everything bad?
In a word, WTF?
Am I alone in seeing this as yet another bullet in the assault on masculinity in modern culture?
What are our children going to be thinking when they get old enough to form their own intimate relationships? That it’s inevitable that boys are going to act like jerks and be hostile/aggressive/violent/mean while girls are inherently more in touch with ‘the divine”, better, more enlightened and peaceful?