When did I become so slovenly?

baseball crowdI was talking with a good friend a few days ago, she’d just come back from ten days in Paris (yeah, she has a tough life. Then again, she’s a single Mom to three, the oldest of whom is 5, so it’s not an easy journey either) and she commented that she had to “up her game” while she was there because everyone dresses more nicely than here in Colorado.

“I really liked the skinny ties that most of the guys seemed to wear. It’s nice to see men dressed a bit more stylishly.” As she said that, I thought about the fact that I was wearing a tired old green polo shirt, green shorts that are starting to fall apart and a pair of sports sandals. Yeah, not so much embodying that “stylish man” look.

I’ve never been a fashionista – partly because I’ve always lived in the burbs not a more urban/trendy setting. Well, that’s not entirely true: when I worked in San Francisco (a city I just love) I did dress more fashionably with colorful button-down shirts and jeans that were a uniform color, not washed out where my wallet lives in my pocket. But that was years ago…


As someone who also watches oodles of movies (you know I’m a published film critic and that I run a popular film blog Dave On Film.com?) I have always enjoyed that in older films everyone’s dressed more formally than nowadays.

Watch a film from the 40s and you’ll see, a baseball game at Wrigley or Yankee Stadium and the men are all in suits and ties. The suits might not have been Saville Row, but the overall effect was far different to the sea of (often rude) t-shirts you see at a ball game today.

What happened to us as a nation? What happened to formality?

The timing was beautiful, therefore, when I got an invitation from Lands’ End to try out one of their original mesh polo shirts. If I’m to wear polo shirts, at least I can wear new ones that look good. Heck, half the polo shirts I have already have Lands’ End labels, so a free shirt is a good deal.

They sent me a white polo, “tall”, and it’s really incredibly comfortable and just so nice to have a shirt that fits me properly and isn’t either too short or to tight because of my, um, gradually changing girth. (insert observation that I work out at the gym regularly, etc)

Does the polo address my issue with becoming increasingly informal in my wardrobe? Not really, but that’s something that’ll require a reinvention of my wardrobe if I travel that road, not just a new polo shirt. Still, even the upgrade from t-shirt to polo shirt is a step in the right direction.

Now, where’d I put my natty skinny ties?


This is cool: As part of the promotion, Lands’ End is offering to send one of my readers one of these cool, comfortable polo shirts. That’s you. All you need to do is leave a comment about whether you dress formally or informally and why you’d appreciate adding a new polo to your wardrobe. Easy, eh?


Disclaimer: I wrote this article while participating in a blog tour by Dad Central on behalf of Lands’ End and received a polo shirt to facilitate my review, another to give away (don’t worry, we’ll get it in your fave size and color if you win!) and an additional promotional item to thank me for taking the time to participate.

4 comments on “When did I become so slovenly?

  1. I go back and forth between wanting to look and feel a bit more sharp and just wanting to be comfortable. I think the polo shirt hits a sweet spot between slob and snob.

  2. I’m a stay at home Dad, movie blogger (like Cap’n Dave!) and a journalist. And while working from home I often let my sartorial decisions flounder (I dress sloppily). But when I put on a crisp new shirt, shave properly and get myself ready for public inspection I feel a 1,000 times better. It’s a slippery slope, but I think there’s something to be said for keeping up appearances. It’s easier said than done, especially when the diapers need to be changed and a deadline is looming.

  3. The office I work in is pretty well 50/50 between males and females. The women, of course tend to dress rather stylish. Women definitely have the upper hand on men when it comes to fashion. The men on the other hand, well some dress very well and other, not so well.
    Office attire is a difficult thing these days. I mean, suits are out and “business casual” has become the norm. But what the heck is business casual. What does really it mean?
    To me, jeans in an office are a no-no but yet a nice polo (read new) can be considered quite stylish on a man in today’s office setting. The problem I have, as Dave has stated, is finding something that fits properly. and is appropriate. It’s just such a rarity these days
    If Dave is correct, I think Lands End’s polo is the product for me. Stylish, well fitting and suited to the modern office (or baseball game) of 2011.

  4. I found your blog by searching for attachment parenting blogs because as the attachment parent for a 14 month old practically manic boy, I can’t keep up with the expectations of a lot of non-attachment parenting blogs.
    Because I don’t make my kid cry it out, I don’t always get a ton of sleep, and because he doesn’t watch TV yet, Sometimes I don’t get to shower. My clothes aren’t necessarily wrinkle free, and I don’t make him sit in the stroller so I can run. It is So hard to figure out the right balance of what makes ME feel good and what I need to do short term for him and sacrifice my “feeling good.” I work out of the house two days a week and from home the other three – and I feel so much better about myself on those work days…but If I’m getting yogurt smeared on my shirt, boogers wiped on my pants, and sitting in puddles, my “play” clothes are not going to be looking good.
    I’m hoping when he gets a tid bit older, I get to start dressing again…

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