I just found your site and love to see a dad branching out for the better! I’m a mom to 2 wonderful girls, and have an awesome husband. It’s frustrating to him that there is not much support for dads!
Anyways I’m starting up my own site that focuses on attachment parenting and would love to add your site as “Sites that make us think” but had to ask about this first…
A few of your blogs were blocked my my computer because they were categorized as “pornography”. I opened them anyways since I decided to trust your site but thought you might like to know. Also, I’d prefer the P word to not be a part of sites I link to, obviously not needed and I’m not sure how one even gets categorized as one thing or another. Thanks for sharing your stories here!
I was rather taken aback by someone writing to me and complaining that there were words in my blog posts that were being flagged by her content filter, including a commentor who used the word penis in one of their comments. Pretty sure that vagina shows up too, but apparently that’s less of an issue based on her not asking me to skip the “v-word”? 🙂
On the other hand, I dunno, is GoFatherhood a pornographic parenting blog? If so, hooboy, this gal should read some of the dad blogs that I keep track of. They’re waaayyyy further down that road than anything I’ve ever put online!
And lest you think that it might be something reserved for us guys, I will tell you that there are plenty of mom blogs online that put us guys to shame with their crude, explicit writing. And they can be extraordinarily powerful and moving too, so it’s not like only high-falutin’ language is appropriate for discussions of parenting and parenthood by any means.
Anyway, I thought about her email to me for a few days and here’s the message I just sent back:
Thanks for your note, and I appreciate the kudos, but that last bit seems a bit like the tail wagging the dog. I write about what I write about, in the language and phrases that I feel most appropriate. I let commentors have a lot of editorial freedom too — though I remove the worst of the obscenities — and for you to request that I skip words like “penis” (really, “the P word”?) makes no sense to me.
I’d love to have you link to my site, and am flattered that you enjoy my writing and travails as a single dad, but I’m not going to change how I write or what I write so you’ll be more comfortable linking to me.
In any case, again, thanks for the kudos. Much appreciated.
What do you think, dear reader? Would you have “scrubbed” your content to get an inbound link and/or figured that they were raising a valid point and clean up your prose to sidestep “pornographic” words and phrases?
How would you respond to this sort of note?