One Week Into The Shrinking Dad Project

This morning marks one week on the Nutrisystem Men’s Success program and so far, so good. In fact, as the graph below from the cool Withings WS-30 wifi scale shows, I’m down almost 4 pounds already: In fact, I’m actually down more because the first few days I had problems getting the scale to record its readings on their site and my first weigh-in was actually 267.8, which means I’m down over 6 pounds in…Read More

Surviving The Great First Sleepover

It’s funny but I don’t remember ever having a sleepover when I was young, even with my buddy Mitch when I was in middle school and my buddy Ivan when we were in high school together. I’m sure I had them, especially since I have vague memories of Mitchell’s dad yelling at us late at night, but still, it certainly wasn’t a common occurrence. And yet, my children are constantly having sleepovers, either inviting their…Read More

Step One of my Journey to be Less of a Dad: Nutrisystem

I don’t really know how it happened, but in the last year or so I have gained about 13 pounds. That’s me in the blue shirt: you can see I’m well on my way to becoming the Buddha. Here’s the rub: I eat reasonably healthy and I hit the gym 2-3 times weekly, often more. Yeah, I’m fairly sedentary otherwise but I don’t feel like I have any horrible habits. Well, except I know my…Read More

Gratitude for a weekend with dads at the Dad 2.0 Summit

This is the second time that Doug French and John Pacini have marshaled forces to co-host the Dad 2.0 Summit, and the second time I’ve had the pleasure of not just attending, but speaking at the event. And it’s amazing to be at an event with so many men who are passionate about being fathers and about making the world a better place for children and parents both. There are Dads that blog about cooking,…Read More

Goodnight, Sweet Newton…

Today was one of the most difficult days I have had in a long time: I put my cat of 10 1/2 years to sleep, never to awaken again. He’s been with me through thick and thin, and while the dogs went with my ex when we split, he was always my pet, with my mellow personality, and he was always wandering around looking for me. In the six years I’ve lived solo, he’s been…Read More

“The Empty-Nest Road Trip Blues”

Being an author myself, I seem to know a disproportionate number of other authors, and it’s a rare week that one of my friends isn’t announcing the publication of a new tech book or even a work of fiction. Great fun and, of course, it’s always fascinating to compare my knowledge of them and their public persona with the narrative style of their book. Often their written work is an extension of themselves, as I…Read More

My Girl’s Sweet 16 Party is a Great Success!

I’m still not sure how this happened, but my oldest girl somehow turned sixteen in the last few weeks. Sixteen. Where’d the time go? Actually, I think that the relative nature of time is best demonstrated by watching children grow up, because there are definitely moments when I have felt time creep along far too slowly even while I’m also aware of it rushing pell-mell. Even those infinitely long evenings of tension and dissent are…Read More

Singing My Kids to Sleep Last Night

I’ve written before about how I would sing to my children when they were little ones, how we’d lay in bed together and I’d whet their musical appetites for The Beatles and various other older music by going through my repertoire as a way to get them to calm down, slow down, and drift off. As they’ve gotten older, however, singing has taken a back seat to “going to bed like a big kid” which…Read More

Life Happens: The greatest inspiration in my life…

Have you read any of those Chicken Soup of the Soul sort of books? You know what I’m talking about, the ceaseless inspirational compendiums that tell you how everyone else has difficult experiences but finds them wonderful, helping them grow into better people, sleep better and even have smoother skin? That it’s only you who has bad experiences and doesn’t find them a blessing? I have to admit that I avoid that genre of literature…Read More

Six Ways to Maximize Points when Traveling with Kids

This is a guest post by Jason Steele. Being a father complicates many of the things that I once took for granted, not the least of which is travel. Not only must I now find a way to pay for multiple tickets to our destination, but there is also the additional complication of managing the points and miles accrued. As both a traveling father serious collector of points and miles, here are some of my…Read More

Kids are different when they’re in a pack

I’ve been parenting for almost sixteen years now (that’s over 5000 days) and it still surprises me to see how different my kids are when they’re in a group – or even all together – versus how they are as individuals. You’ve probably seen this too, I’m betting: your child is friendly and easy when it’s just the two of you but add other people and the dynamic changes. Add other kids to the mix…Read More

Great book for new Dads: Commando Dad

I’ve been having a very amusing email conversation with Neil Sinclair, the author of the new book “Commando Dad”, and thought you too would enjoy this book, especially if you’re just getting into the parenting world with a new baby. I’ll let him speak for himself, though, by simply sharing the intro to his book: Introduction TO ALL DADS AND CARERS (henceforth known as ‘Commando Dads’) This book has been written for YOU. I have…Read More

The Myth of “Quality Time” With Your Children

I was reading an interesting post over at Dads Divorce.com where they talk about Five Shared Parenting Myths and something in the article struck a chord: While it is important that children receive quality time with each parent, children learn the most from the parents’ behavior. All too often “magical” moments of quality time are “caught” in-between the regular daily activities of life. I couldn’t agree more that parenting is a marathon, not a sprint….Read More

My Father’s Rights Op-Ed at NYTIMES.COM

I was approached by the New York Times about a week ago asking if I’d like to contribute a short essay to their Room for Debate section for Father’s Day, the topic being described as: “With all of the endless discussion about the Mommy Wars this spring, dads were pretty much left out of the discussion, which reveals that Attachment Parenting is really just Intensive Mothering. But with the approaching of Father’s Day, all the…Read More

Interview with Kelly Crull, author of “Becoming Dad”

Q: Name, title and occupation? KC: Kelly Crull, writer and pastor. Q: You just had a third child. Congratulations! Now, with that in mind, what do you most like about being a father and what do you find the biggest surprise / drag about your new role? KC: A friend of mine likes to say that life is about relationships. I agree. I think the kind of relationship a parent has with a child doesn’t…Read More

Are Dads so easily replaced in a child’s life?

My ex, her fiancée and I attended a meeting at school with a counselor, a check-in meeting about how my son is doing in school. He’s had a rather rough journey, as a lot of boys do in an era when school is more about cerebral activities and passive cooperation than actively running around, having lots of physical activities and just plain doing stuff. You can tell what my philosophy of raising boys is in…Read More

Talking about Sex with your Teen

Yeah, I knew that article title would catch your attention, and it’s probably one of the most anxiety-provoking subjects that us parents have to wrestle with: talking to our children in an age appropriate manner about relationships, intimacy and sex. Worse, it’s not The Big Talk any more, it’s not one time you steel yourself and have a mutually embarassing conversation with your teen about the proverbial birds and bees, it’s actually a series of…Read More

Mother’s Day is different without my Mum around…

As a member of the media it’s at the beginning of April that it starts, the promotions and releases tied to one of the biggest spending holidays of the year: Mother’s Day. Previously I was reasonably enthused about it, helping my children plan a nice present or surprise for their Mom and getting a card and, occasionally, some flowers for my own mum to celebrate their presence in my life. Last year, just before Mother’s…Read More

Teens, texting and vacations. What’s a Dad to do?

I’m usually pretty good at coming up with solutions to technological dilemmas with my children, but I have to admit I’m a bit stumped this time, and feel like the problem reflects more on me being too uptight and less on my daughter’s ability to be engaged, part of our group, and maintain her relationship with her boyfriend back home. Let me set the scene: My kids get a two week spring break, so in…Read More

Can I just get titanium teeth? My Waterpik review…

I do my best to take care of myself, including faithfully brushing my teeth twice-daily, but I have to be candid that I hate flossing. The string, the bleeding, the hassle, it’s something I really don’t like, so flying in the face of my dentist’s recommendation, I floss once in a blue moon. If that often. I even got those cool little floss pick things but I don’t use those either, they just stare at…Read More

Dad bloggers shouldn’t just be categorized as “parent bloggers”

I’m here in Austin, attending Dad 2.0 Summit, and a message just flew past on Twitter and was echoed in a session I attended: that there shouldn’t be a separation between momblogging and dadblogging, but instead we should all be building towards a “parent blogger” community. Specifically this tweet from attendee Rita Arens captures the question well: While initially I applauded the idea that we should be a single, unified community, as a man I have to…Read More