My journey to becoming an Attachment Parenting Dad

I originally wrote this for “The Compleat Mother” but realize that it’d be nice to have it on my own weblog too. Enjoy, and please feel free to add your responses, reactions or comments at the end. Thanks. Journeys start with a single step. Sometimes that step is easy and other times it’s more akin to standing in front of a very long staircase going up. I can still remember my first step to attachment…Read More

Should a man wear a wedding ring?

I bumped into this interesting article on the Web and, with the kind permission of Peter Crump, the author, am including it here. Fair warning: he designs wedding rings for men, so he’s biased, but it’s interesting reading nonetheless. Strange as it may seem the use of a wedding ring by men was not common until recently. Whereas women have worn wedding rings for eons, men have not. The use of rings as a symbol…Read More

An AP parent on the benefit of no-media children

While reading a Waldorf education related mailing list, I came across this thoughtful and interesting message from Kimberley Weaver, and, with her gracious permission, I’m reproducing it here for your reading enjoyment. I had a similar experience with my kids when I was pregnant. I had severe morning sickness through most of my pregnancies and during my third my husband was working full-time *and* doing his PhD. So, my kids watched more TV than normal…Read More

The perfect washer, or social engineering at its worst?

I’m reading through the BBC News this morning when I bump into this article: Washing Machine Fingers Lazy Male A Spanish designer has come up with what could be the perfect solution for the woman who feels frustrated that she has to do all the house chores. It is a washing machine called “Your Turn”, which will not let the same person use it twice in a row. It uses fingerprint recognition technology to ensure…Read More

Take your Parents to School Day?

Today is apparently Take Your Children to Work Day, and lots of different company weblogs are sharing photographs and amusing stories about children getting a taste of work life, presumably without the boring meetings, frustrating budget cuts and office politics. But I’m a work-at-home Dad and even if I wasn’t, can’t imagine the appeal of this particular event. I mean, if you’re highly involved with both your job and your family, then aren’t your kids…Read More

First week of weight gain sets lifelong weight patterns? I don’t think so.

Another news entry from the hall of mirrors today. The story is Baby’s First Week May Set Lifelong Weight Patterns wherein they state: “The first week of life may be a critical period for establishing lifelong patterns of body weight. Infants who gain rapidly in those first seven days may be more likely to develop weight problems as young adults, suggests a new study published in the April 19 issue of Circulation, the journal of…Read More

EPA cancels pesticide tests on Floridian babies

This is just such a shocking story from the New York Times that I am letting it speak for itself. This is what our tax money goes to fund and how our government acts in what we foolishly believe is “the best interest of the people”. Did I wake up in Oz or something?? EPA Halts Florida Test on Pesticides By DAVID D. KIRKPATRICK WASHINGTON, April 8 – Stephen L. Johnson, the acting administrator of…Read More

Standing your ground with discipline

A while back I wrote about the challenges we were having with bedtimes, particularly with our five year old son. The article was cheerily titled When does bedtime become something other than a nightmare. I’m glad to report that we’ve made some changes in our nighttime routine and they are paying off wonderfully, with easy no-fuss bedtimes and considerably less stress about the house. The first change we made was to recognize that since it…Read More

Jack Welch says: forget it. You can’t balance business and personal life

If you haven’t heard of Jack Welch, he’s the famously successful former CEO of General Electric who created a world class corporate culture that helped GE remain one of the most successful companies of all time. He retired, then flamed out when he had an affair with Suzy Wetlaufer, editor of the Harvard Business Review. Bad move, Jack. That’s not what I want to talk about in this article, however, I just want to share…Read More

PBS introduces “PBS Kids Sprout” a new digital babysitter

I imagine that many people read the new news announcement from Comcast and PBS and think that it’s good news and a great addition to the television lineup, but as someone who eschews media for my children completely, I’m not impressed. Here’s the announcement, as reported by the Washington Post: “Accompanied by Big Bird and Barney, Comcast Communications Corp. Chairman Brian L. Roberts on Monday announced a new Public Broadcasting Service option for preschool children…Read More

Why are kid-friendly bathrooms so hard to find?

There’s some sort of conspiracy going on, or people who design restaurants are just blithering idiots or something. After going to literally hundreds of different restaurants around the United States, restaurants that have spent millions of dollars on packaging or themeing their decor as family friendly, depressingly few of them have even remotely kid-friendly bathrooms. You know what I mean if you have younger children. Toilets are all at adult height and — what bugs…Read More

When does bedtime become other than a nightmare?

It’s just amazing to me. We can have the most enjoyable, busy day, full of physical activities, 10 solid hours of fun and action, but when it rolls around to bedtime, all of a sudden our nice kids vanish and *poof* it’s the whiny can-I-have’s that show up. Honestly, it’s the main time that I feel completely inadequate as a Dad and think about just throwing in the proverbial towel and going back to a…Read More

The Little Boy and the Monkeys: Children’s picture book, needs pictures….

For years and years I’ve been told by people that I should be writing children’s books. I am an imaginative and engaging storyteller and can think very fast on my feet and weave just about any random set of ideas together. I also have some long-running serial stories that I tell my children that typically involved unicorns, dragons, koala bears, and, sometimes, tea and little cakes. A few days ago, after having told a long…Read More

Why do so many men cheat on their spouses?

I admit it. In addition to spending about 24.8 hours each day being the best parent and husband I can be, I also try to find a little time to remember what it means to be a man in today’s society too. One way I accomplish this is through a local men’s group, and it’s great. But, of course, what we have in common is that we’re all Dads too, so the discussion is just…Read More

What’s the toughest thing about being a father?

I’ve spent a lot of time in the last few weeks thinking about how parenting is about patience, about listening, and about letting things go. But, y’know, I can watch my wife and marvel at how well she does with our three children, while simultaneously knowing that I could probably do pretty well in her place, but not as well. If you’re a Dad, you know exactly what I’m talking about. All I can think…Read More

Breastfeeding and the Law

Bumped into this very interesting article and thought it’d be worth reprinting here… 50 State Summary of Breastfeeding Laws Updated December 2004 More than half of the states (37) have enacted legislation related to breastfeeding. Thirty two states allow mothers to breastfeed in any public or private location (California, Colorado, Connecticut, Delaware, Florida, Georgia, Hawaii, Illinois, Indiana, Iowa, Louisiana, Maine, Maryland, Minnesota, Missouri, Montana, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New Mexico, New York, North Carolina, Oklahoma, Oregon, Rhode…Read More

Waldorf Schools and the challenge of values-based organizations

One of the many mailing lists in which I participate is one discussing Waldorf Education and, sporadically, Rudolf Steiner. Our children attend a Waldorf school and we are very happy with the program and curriculum and find that the underlying precepts of the pedagogy to be quite aligned with our own beliefs and views. However, as with any values-based organization, the Waldorf community has a tendency to sometimes split into an “us versus them” mentality,…Read More

We’ll help you pick a great baby name!

Before our third baby K- was born, Linda and I spent lots of time looking through baby name books and even phone books and professional directories, seeking inspiration. We also tried online baby name directories, but were uniformly unimpressed with their search technologies or how their results were displayed. None of them really helped us find a great name, though. So I built my own name search tool, which is now, only 13 months after…Read More